An Interview with Ulrik Adinatha Lyshøj Part 2
Oh touch…most of women love touch; they are tactile, sensual beings. They are born to celebrate life in this way, it defines the bond between them and their beloveds. Through sensuality and eroticism, they explore and find delight in every cell of their body that is immersed in such an experience.
Massage celebrates sensuality. It is an experience of giving and receiving, of exploring and opening towards each other. It is definitely a wonderful way to receive elevated pleasure, relax deeply, remove stress and tension in the physical body, and create a profound feeling of well-being. By receiving a tantric massage, a woman is investing love, compassion and affection in herself.
The fascinating story of Ulrik Adinatha Lyshøj, a tantra teacher and tantra massage therapist, continues throughout the second part of this interview. Here are some necessary tips for any woman to consider before coming to the Tantra Temple:
1. What should a woman know before coming to receive a tantra massage? Is there a way a woman should get ready before receiving a tantra massage?
ULRIK ADINATHA: “
“It depends a little on the structure of the woman because some women are more adventurous. They love to jump into the unknown, and for that type of woman, I would say that it is very good that they do not know much before because they might have beneficial surprises.
While other women are of a structure where they feel they need to know very clearly what is going to happen and what is not. For that kind of woman, is very good to read the description of a tantric massage on our website. For such a woman is very good to know that the masseur will keep his shorts on, that there will not be any sexual interaction, even if the massage will be very sensual, that it might include yoni massage, but it’s not a sexual experience.
It is good for many women to know that the masseur has worked with his erotic energy for many years to master it and knows how to deal with his own desires and never take advantage of the situation. It’s good for women to know that the tantra massage therapist is a serious human being, not serious in the sense of being rigid, but one who takes this spiritual practice of giving tantric massage very seriously and who practices every day yoga exercises, meditation, and breathing techniques in order to control and master his energies perfectly.
When the woman comes for a massage, and we have the initial talk, I also explain to her a few things that are good to know before starting the massage. Just very practical and simple how it will be: the woman will be naked, I will keep my shorts on, and I will first massage her all over the body in a very relaxed way so that she will calm down, relax her mind, and become very present in the moment. Then gradually, the massage becomes more sensual and starts to awaken the erotic energy, but in a relaxed manner. The woman feels deeply relaxed, but her body starts to be more and more alive even vibrating, full of energy. At some point, I am going to ask her if she would like to experience the yoni massage, which means the massage with the fingers of her genitals both outside and on the inside. At that point, she has to feel in that moment if that feels right for her. She should not feel any pressure, not even from herself, to have that experience. If her body does not feel ready for that, it’s a good lesson to learn how to say no, if it doesn’t feel right.
It is good for her to know that she is welcome to be herself; she doesn’t have to take care if I feel good or not, but to focus on herself and be free, to express whatever comes up inside, if it’s laughter, tears, deep sighs of relief, or heavy breathing. She is welcome to express whatever comes up. She is welcome to change the position during the massage; she can move her arms, legs, the entire body. Freedom is an expression of the energies that she feels inside herself. The more she expresses that freely, the more I can catch the flow of that energy, and in a way, we can dance with her energy together rather than her just lying still and stiff.
To get ready, to bring an open heart – that is the best way prepare for a tantra massage experience. It would be good if she would not have had a stressful day and rush to have the massage appointment at the end of the day, but she has time to relax, feel good and take a little easy. After the massage, I recommend not rushing somewhere else that requires her full attention outside but rather giving herself the time and space to focus inside. It would be very good if, after the massage she has time to go for a walk, or sit quietly at home to let the experience digest.”
We should fully face that so-called modern life brings many duties, environmental toxins, health issues, and even diseases. As a result of this, we might tend to feel a little heavy (physical, psycho-emotional, energetical etc.), and this can be easily reflected in our daily life. Women tend to be a little more sensitive to many factors, and sometimes depression and anxiety, overwhelming emotions could make them disconnect from their own sensuality. In such a state, it is easy for them to forget that they are all wonderful, fully capable, with rich potential and many unique qualities within. Here Tantra plays a very important role, and especially tantra massage could be the answer to many of these mentioned issues, as Ulrik explains in the following.
2. What are the physical, physiological and psycho-emotional effects a woman might experience through tantra massage from what you have observed in all these years of practice?
ULRIK ADINATHA:
“I have given massage to at least 2000 women, and the effects are enormous; there can be many different effects. Two women do not have the same experience; even the same woman would have a different experience next time she comes to receive a massage.
From a physical point of view, many women experience all kinds of ailments and problems that are relieved, not because the massage itself is necessarily healing; simply, the woman becomes more balanced and she gets in touch with her own heart. She starts becoming aware of what is good for her and what is not. Often women start to, at least to a certain extent, transform their life for the better and make better decisions in their life, and that has a very good effect on their physical health as well. The massage also helps the energetical flow in the body, relieving and helping all kinds of physical ailments.
I have seen that many women experienced less pain in the lower back and neck after massages. Also related to the yoni, the genitals of the woman, many women experience tensions and pains in the pelvic floor, which can be helped through this kind of massage.
From the psycho-emotional point of view, this is the case of many women; they feel more beautiful. So many women described that they felt more beautiful; that the hands touching them saw and underlined their beauty. Many women feel more comfortable in their body, being met exactly where they are and not seen as an object. Being touched in a loving way, even in the body parts that they do not yet feel good about.
Maybe a woman feels she is overweight or underweight or has some scars from operations, but she manages to relax much more and even starts to love those body parts. Many women experience a much more relaxed attitude towards nudity, like just feeling natural being naked rather than feeling very shy or tensed or exposed. After this kind of massage, many women feel that they can be themselves more without having to play roles or pretend. Many women are educated to be nice girls and behave in a certain way and definitely not behave in a certain way. They are rather challenged by these limitations in their lives whenever they want to say or do something; it somehow stops them from being natural, spontaneous and free. Many women feel in the massage that they are not too much, they get closer to themselves without shame, fear, guilt, or feeling limited.
On a spiritual note, many women experience that they understand themselves better, getting closer to what they really are. They start to get in a deeper intimate contact with their own soul and begin to let themselves be guided by their heart. To not only be guided by what the people expect from them, or what is practical, or even emotional, but to truly listen to their heart and feel the calling of their soul. That process has helped many women to move on in their life from a certain dead-end. After this kind of massage, it can happen a reset. The woman feels purified from years and years of patterns; she can see things more clearly and choose wisely what is the right thing for her to do. Ultimately, she gets in touch with her true spark, the spark of divinity, her real Self that is just giving her the state of witness. A state where she can go through life and step into this phase of the wise woman who can become a guide and inspiration for the people around her. “
In the ancient tantric tradition, any human body is seen as a temple, worthy of worship, full of beauty, purity and… intense elevated pleasure beyond any description that could lead to states of godly ecstasy.
Our body is such a complexity, as a portal, an agent of release and healing, a wisdom carrier of deep insight, and a holder of secrets and mysteries. The relationship that women have to their bodies can be a great opportunity for them to understand their feminine nature and the huge potential that exists within.
3. As a tantra massage therapist, would you like to share a memorable experience that you had during your sessions?
ULRIK ADINATHA:
“I have a guest who has been coming for massages regularly; and she is a lady that has a big, vital body, and all of her life had all kinds of challenges, diseases, problems. She is also a colourful woman, wearing many colours and flowers. When I met her for the first time, I could feel in her that there is a lot of feminine energy that had not been allowed to blossom and glow. Because of that, she put all kinds of limitations on herself, and because of that, she got all kinds of diseases.
When I gave her a massage, firstly, she started to relax, and then she began to wake up. Energetically I could feel tingling sensations in my hands and how her body was starting to vibrate and become warmer, and wherever I touched her, I could feel electric currents through her. She did not know what was going on, she started to breathe deeper, and many things were happening inside her.
Then she asked me: “can you feel it?”. I said yes: “I can feel it”. She then asked: “What is happening?” And I said: “Relax, let the energy be; you are not wrong, just feel what you feel and let the energy do what it needs to do”. Then she started to have an intense energetic experience where she was breathing heavily and shaking and rolling. She started to roll around instead of just trying to lie still. I caught her and I helped her to roll around; I showed her she was not too much, that it is all right to do like that, and it became for her such a revelation of what it means to be free and spontaneous and just be with herself, that the whole massage became like a very beautiful dance. We were literally dancing horizontally. She was moving; I was helping her to move, stretch, roll over, lift the leg, lift the arm, as if the whole thing became very, very beautiful and very intense dance.
Afterwards, she was completely overwhelmed by the experience, but at the same time, she was saying:” wow, this is how it feels to be me.” Then we had an excellent talk about her life and her relationship with men and her erotic life. She had always felt she was being too much:” If I am just a little bit myself, men are running away scared”. It was wonderful for her to have this kind of experience in which she was not too much, in which she was free. It was such a healing and even trauma-releasing experience for her in which suddenly she was allowed to be herself. For me was very touching to see the tears in her eyes, and to see her freedom of expression.”
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Tantra offers a wide variety of techniques, methods and teachings that can be worked through the temple of our body, which is the place of our soul. This is why a tantra masseur will approach the body with empathy, respect and consciousness so that our massage rests on the understanding that the body, emotions and soul are brought together as a whole. Our main goal here in the temple is to bring awareness to the ones receiving massages and to create a connection between the eroticism they can experience and spirituality.
For those of us who offer tantra massages in the temple, the true meaning of our mission lies not only in why we do it, but especially in how we actually do it. To massage a woman, seen in the sacred tantric tradition, means to transfigure or to see the goddess within her, to underline and bring up to light her unique qualities. In this way, she becomes the best version of herself.
Second and last part of the interview with Ulrik Adinatha Lyshøj made by Aditi
Read part 1 here