An Interview with Ulrik Adinatha Lyshøj Part 1
Over the centuries, a woman’s body is considered to hide many treasures, some might even say an entire universe. A woman’s mystery has always seduced us because there are so many phenomena that are occurring beyond appearances. This also leaves space for many desires, hopes, and creative imaginations, but not many understand what actually happens in the so-called “deep waters” of a woman’s being.
A woman’s eroticism could be compared with an indefinite ample space that has a great capacity to experience pleasure, when she finds herself in a safe and protected space. A woman who has discovered that sacred space within herself becomes radiant, creative and, most importantly, happy. Because she starts to embody in herself the beauty of life, and then, in turn, life will begin to smile back at her.
To find the beauty, complexity and wonders that are hidden within the woman, a tantra massage is a great tool for discovering this magic within. But before booking such a gift of love, as we like to call it as well, one might have many questions. In this article, we aim to answer some of these possible questions. And for this, we have chosen to interview Ulrik Adinatha Lyshøj, a tantra teacher and tantra massage therapist who enthusiastically shared some of his knowledge and vast experiences in connection with tantra massage for women.
Behind every successful man, there is a fascinating story. Here is part of his story, which gives us a glimpse of his evolutionary journey in the massage world and will show us what it brings women in their life and why they chose to return again and again to receive Tantra massages.
1. Why did you choose to become a tantra massage therapist?
ULRIK ADINATHA: “I have always loved touch, and I think my first experience with touch was when I gave my first massage when I was a teenager and around 16-17 years old. I remember I was doing gymnastics, and we had a weekend workshop in my gymnastics team when the teacher hired a massage instructor to come and teach us a massage. We paired two and two, and we gave each other a massage. That was quite an eye-opening experience for me because when I put my hand on the back of this girl I was going to massage, I had a special perception, I could feel her, not just physically but more profoundly. I could feel how it felt for her, like what was happening inside her. I could almost physically feel on my own back how my hand felt on her skin; as I started to move my hand, my body was telling me clearly where to touch her. I could feel the tensed parts and the sore spots of her body, and that was fascinating for me that touch was a language. But a dialogue was happening there; it was all kinds of things going back and forth between us without words. Then I decided to go deeper into this, but I didn’t take it seriously, such as doing an education because, meanwhile, all kinds of other things happened.”
“Then, later in life, maybe ten years later, I took a professional massage education and became a massage therapist. That was very fulfilling for me, to a certain degree, because when I gave this classical physiological massage, I felt I was doing good to people. I was helping them a lot, but at the same time, I could have gone better; we could have gone deeper. I could have shown the people more of themselves somehow through touch, but the classic massage frame did not allow that. Many people came just for half an hour or one-hour massage, just dropping the shirt and lying down; it was very fast going through the body.”
“Then I also started to learn about Tantra, and after some years, the two merged into one, and I learned tantra massage. When I began giving tantra massage, I just knew that this was it, that this is what I have been searching for, and this is why the other type of massage I gave until then was not so fulfilling because this one is so much more profound. It is like a soul-to-soul meeting that can heal and purify all kinds of tensions you might have and also show people who they are in a way that is faster than if you say: “Stay down, close your eyes to find out who you are”. Many inner revelations are happening through this kind of massage and conscious touch. That’s why I chose to become a tantra massage therapist, and that’s why I have done this full-on non-stop for the last 17 years.”
“In tantra massage, there is a saying, “A massage gets ecstatic when the one who gives the massage and the one who receives it becomes one, and there is no difference between the two because also, mysteriously, the one who gives it becomes massaged as well”. In the same way, those who choose to become tantra massage therapists find many wonderful reasons to like more and more what they do once they get more experience along their path. This has nothing to do with the lower desires that might awaken the sensation of touching a woman’s body in different parts or lustfully looking at her. Still, by discovering the multitude of qualities and aspects that women embody, I will mention here a few: mystery, eros, beauty, magic, harmony, sensitivity, purity, sensuality, intelligence, curiosity, surrender, fascination, relaxation, playfulness, and many more – the list might become very big.”
“A man who offers a tantra massage with a loving and sensual touch will lead with his heart everything that he is offering to that woman, and this is the first and foremost important intention that a tantra massage therapist must have during such a session. In such conditions, that woman will feel what is there beyond the touch and be able to surrender and feel safe in his hands, then explore her own inner depths, which will lead her towards a blissful inner journey.”
2. What do you enjoy the most about offering tantra massage, and why is it so fulfilling?
ULRIK ADINATHA: “Apart from loving touch, and it is very fulfilling to have a working activity where the touch is involved, the most fulfilling is how I can help people understand themselves better. When I give a tantric massage, it’s not about being good at it; I don’t need any acknowledgement or affirmation that I am a great masseur. If I helped anyone to understand or know themselves better, if I got a little closer to their real core, to the spark of divinity inside, then that was a success. This happens in all the massages. I have a clear impression that women who receive this type of massage leave with an experience that they know themselves better. Not always pleasant what comes up because it can release traumas or bring all kinds of emotions from the past, which is not fun to look at while it lasts, but it helps them to know themselves better, which is very fulfilling for me.”
“Before receiving a tantra massage, a woman might have many doubts about whether she should come to receive one, if she is ready, if she might have the right age and attitude, if it’s safe for her, etc. All of these thoughts that might come are completely normal, and this only shows some of the needs that a woman might have, like to be accepted as she is, to be embraced fully, to be respected and taken care and so much more.
Here in the Tantra Temple, we embrace women of all sizes, ages and colours who are interested in natural self-discovery and even healing through the help of the art of tantra massage, the art of loving sensual touch which brings so much harmony and balance on all the levels in a woman’s body.”
3. Which age are the women that are coming to receive Tantra massage? Is there any age recommendation?
ULRIK ADINATHA: “Most women that come to receive a tantra massage are between 18 and 80 years old. There is no age recommendation for when to do a tantra massage or receive it. The best recommendation is when you are ready. For some women, that is at a very early age, around 20 years old, while for others, it’s in their 60s. The point is that tantric massage can greatly support women in knowing themselves better. So, the young woman who comes for a massage will often have a beautiful experience of being touched lovingly, in a non-grabby way, in a way that gives something to her rather than taking something from her. That gives her a little checkpoint on how touch can feel when it’s good. That can be a huge help for young women who might not be able to have that experience or want to learn and get to know themselves better.”
“Another category of women are typically in their 40s, who often have had children and possibly made some career work-related. Now, the children are getting bigger, teenagers, and they don’t always require mama’s attention. For many women, that phase of life is a new awakening of femininity. She has to find herself again as a woman because for the last 15 years, maybe she was just a mom; that was her identity. Part of what she sacrifices in this process is her femininity, sensuality and possibly even her erotic fulfilment. Women in that phase of life must start to realise now: “How am I going to be a woman again? How do I find back to my sensual qualities? How do I find back my bubbly, effervescent energy? Otherwise, I can’t stay a mom for the rest of my life; the kids will leave home anyway. How would I spend the next half of my life? How much is left? “ Typically, in their 40s, there is a crossroad where either the woman starts to grow old, or she finds herself again as a woman.”
“Tantric massage is a huge support for that, to be touched in this loving way by an experienced man who knows about women and women’s energy and how to awaken her profoundly. Tantric massage is not a sexual touch or sexual excitement that is happening there but is awakening what can be both sensual and erotic in a very relaxed way. The power of energy radiates through her entire being and body and makes her feel alive as a woman. It rekindles that level of femininity that was always there, but it was just fragile – like when you put the flame very low on a stove, just so that it is ready when you open the gas again. That’s how I feel about many women in that phase of life.”
“Some older women are going through the same phase but realise later in life that they forgot to be a woman. Maybe they are in their 60s or 70s…” Oh, I am not dead yet; I need to do something with me and with my life”. They come for this kind of massage and almost experience the awakening of their youth because they start to feel very young when their energy is alive in their bodies.”
“When women get to their menopause, many changes are happening with the hormones in their bodies. Some women come at this point to find out how “I find myself in the new body. Now that the hormones are different, how is life and, from this point of view, being touched and inner awakening.” Some women going through menopause don’t have the same erotic desire as they used to. It doesn’t come in the same way spontaneously, but often, they realise that when they are touched in a loving, profound way, much erotic energy starts to awaken in them. It is just not triggered in the same way as it was used when the reproductive hormones were running the show. Then it is enough to see a hot-looking guy, and she is already awakened, but with age, it’s a different kind of awakening.“
Here ends the first part of this interview with Ulrik, but stay tuned! In part 2 of this interview we will reveal more insights to you, which might inspire you to try out this amazing tool of Tantra massage, to get closer to your feminine and sensitive heart.
First part of an interview with Ulrik Adinatha Lyshøj made by Aditi
Read the second part here